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5 Things I Want My Sons To Know About Women #VoicesForOurSons

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This month in #VoicesForOurSons, we are talking about interacting with the ladies. With the recent events of Cee Lo Green and the misogynistic culture that we still unfortunately have, I want to share these five things that I want to convey to my sons about women.

Teen Boys and Girls, the talk with boys

1. No Means No

Even though there are songs, videos and images in our culture that will say otherwise, No does mean No. I want you to know that every young woman that you encounter is someone’s daughter, sister and future mother. I don’t want the image of a distrustful man to have your face attached to it. Be respectful to everyone. Even when someone is desiring attention or inappropriate physical affection, remember to use good judgement.

2. Your No Means No Even When She Says Yes

Unfortunately, there are some pretty aggressive females out here these days when it comes to personal interactions with guys.  You all are exposed to images now that in my day we had to make a pretty intentional effort to view. And unfortunately, some young ladies out there may not know the lump of hot coals they are dealing with their aggressiveness. Mom and Dad won’t be around all of the time.  It is up to you to exercise your boundaries as a young man. Be respectful, but also don’t be afraid to say No. You are not a wimp, or whatever the street term is, to resist behavior that has consequences that you are not old enough to handle.

3. Be Kind

This is pretty simple, but middle school is hard enough. Everybody’s hormones are raging. Females are experiencing some incredible changes in their bodies as well as you and your guy friends. Female body changes are a lot more noticeable than yours. Don’t tease or harass the girls around you. Be respectful and be kind. Even if you witness some blunders along the way. It will pay off in the long run. Trust me on this.

4. A Woman Is Not A Female Dog

I know you hear women referred to this title alot. Unfortunately, this has become the norm in our society. However, this does not have to be your norm. Remember what I said in number 1. The girls you encounter are someone’s daughter, or sister, or aunt. Don’t degrade another person because of their gender. It is not cute at all.

5. Don’t Do Grown Up Things Thinking There Is Not A Grown Up Price

I’m not going to get into all of the details on this post, but I think you know what I mean. Unless you are prepared to face the consequences of your actions (physically, spiritually and emotionally) of adult behavior, then simply don’t do it. I can tell you, most of my friends who engaged in sexual behavior and had children as teenagers would tell you the same thing. Your job is to be a kid and grow up to become a man.  My job is to give you all of the tools you need to do your job successfully. Don’t introduce all of the other things into it until you can pay the price tag that’s associated with it.

What are some words of wisdom you’d like to leave for other mothers out there to share with their sons. Leave a comment. Join in the conversation on Twitter with #VoicesForOurSons. Finally, if you have a blog post to share, link up with us with the linky below.

 

 

 

 

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Arelis Cintron
Arelis Cintron

I think we were all in a race to be grown up ... especially in our teens ... who wants to take orders? But now being a grown up is not all that it appeared to be ... some days I wish I could go back to just be a kid and really enjoy the moments!

Robyn
Robyn

I once had a grown man (50+) tell me that men and women can't be friends. I replied by asking something similar to, "So if we aren't have sex you have no use for me?" He looked at me dumbfounded and said, "Yeah I guess."

It is wonderful to hear that you are teaching your boys better than that.

Val Boaten
Val Boaten

Thank you so much Patricia Patton!

Patricia Patton
Patricia Patton

One of the most important lessons I think I taught my son was how to communicate, not just with other men but with females and people who on the surface seemed not to be "like" him. I encouraged platonic friendships across gender because I'd met so many grown men who didn't know how to be friends. And I co-sign the everything that is offered to you, you do not have to accept mantra.

Caroll Atkins
Caroll Atkins

This is a great start on the lessons we must teach our sons. We must teach them often and we must make sure we are relating it in the manner their generation can understand. So for those who don't want to pay attention to our children's generation and what it important to them, they will find they will be at a loss. This is the first generation that will look beyond what is in the house and firmly grasp on to it UNLESS we intervene but not in a "because I say so" way. Thanks!

Janeane Davis
Janeane Davis

These are good lessons to teach our sons. It is important to tell our sons early and often what we expect from them and why. Mothers are the first teachers for their sons and we need to use the power of that position for good.

Janeane Davis
Janeane Davis

These are good lessons to teach our sons. It is important to tell our sons early and often what we expect from them and why. Mothers are the first teachers for their sons and we need to use the power of that position for good.

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